As you get older, you maintain longer relationships, put down roots, find yourself. The more solid you are in this world, the more people expect of you. As a woman, the biggest expectation that is imposed on you is bearing children. You have a vagina, you must bring offspring into the world.
Here's the problem with this logic, you have no idea what that woman has been through. She may have a disorder that prevents children, her partner may be sterile, she could have been born infertile… hell, SHE COULD NOT HAVE A UTERUS at all. She could also hate kids, or not want to bring another child into this messed up, insane world. None of this matters as she has made an informed decision to not have a child one way or the other.
When you ask a woman if she has a child, and she says "No" that *should* be the end of that conversation, but it is rarely as simple as that. Personally I get asked all sorts of questions about why I don't have children. It's never enough to say that I just don't. It always ends up with me saying "it just wasn't in the cards for us", "my husband had cancer, it's a long story, you're a piece of shit for making me answer this" or some combination of the two.
Don't tell me that adopting is still an option. No, fucking, shit. I'm not stupid. I know all about adoption and surrogacy. I've done a ton of research and reading into my options, if I ever wish to explore them. I don't need your help, if I ever do you'll be the first to know.
Women, your body is your business including what goes in, or comes out of it. There are plenty of children in this world that need us. Be an amazing aunt, a kick-ass sister, a bitchin best friend, or a cool mom. Or don't. That's good too.
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